If you are in Tune With the Way Things Work, then they work the way they need to, no matter what you may think about it at the time. Later on , you can look back and say, "Oh , now I understand, That had to happen so that those could happen, and those had to happen in order for this to happen..."  Then you realize that even if you had tried to make it all turn out perfectly, you could not of done better, and if you really tried , you would of made a mess of the whole thing.  (The Tao of Pooh)